3. Love
Besides trust and respect, love of course is the essence of a family. Some people say that marriage is the grave of love. Maybe it is partly because that after people getting married the sweet love which make lovers attractive to each other disappear slowly. A family without love is like a building without foundation and framework, then the building of family gets ruined day by day until all the whole building falls into pieces and nothing remains.
People say “love is stronger than death.” Melanie has the energy to take the danger of miscarriage and death, which is because she has a great love for her husband and child. Love is powerful, which can make a poor family happy. Even though some families are not so rich as others, they are still harmonious ones admired by the rich ones, for what the rich families lack is just what the poorer family has—love, which can not be brought by money, or be measured by money. Love is valuable. Love is the essence of the family and women should always be full of love which makes her attractive and mercy and favorable to others.
Ⅳ. Suggestions on How to Achieve Success in Interpersonal Relationship for a Woman
Interpersonal relationship is an initial part of life. Every one is part or unit of this integrated society. Nobody can live in the society without communication with others. So interpersonal relationship is what women should care about. In terms of interpersonal relationship, Scarlet and Melanie are of two different styles. Both set a good example to a woman who intends to achieve success in this field.
A. to Learn from Scarlet and Use One’s Beauty Properly to Attract Others
Scarlet in Gone with the Wind attracted almost every man she met. Just like in the first paragraph of Gone with the Wind:
Scarlet O’Hara was not beautiful, but men seldom realized it when caught by her charm as the Tarleton twins are. In her face were two sharply blended the delicate features of her mother, a coast aristocrat of French descent, and the heavy ones of her florid Irish father. But it was an arresting face, painted of chin, square of jaw. Her eyes were pale green without a touch of hazel, starred with bristly black lashes and slightly titled at the ends. Above them, her thick black brows slanted upwards…She has the smallest waist in three counties. (Margaret, 3)
Scarlet knew the arts and graces of being attractive to man. She knew how to smile so that her dimples leaped; how to walk pigeon-toed so that her wide hoop skirts swayed entrancingly ; how to look up into a man’s face and then rope her eyes and bat the lids rapidly so that she seemed a kind girl with gentle emotion. Most of all she learned how to conceal from men a sharp intelligence beneath a face as sweet and bland as a baby’s. Scarlet’s mother taught her all that a gentlewoman should know, but she learned only the outward signs of gentility. The inner grace from which these signs should spring she now learned, nor did she see any reason for learning it. Appearance was enough, for the appearance of ladyhood had won her popularity and that was all she wanted. She had received proposals from nearly all the young men in the neighborhood and many other places. Scarlet knew which dress would best set off her charms and make her most irresistible to men.
In some degree we can say that beautiful appearance accounts her success in interpersonal relationship. Women in 21st century should also learn something from Scarlet to pay enough attention to the appearance. Even though some people say that “don’t judge a person by appearance”. It can not be denied that women with beautiful appearance are more likely to attract men and leave a deep impression. Loving beauty is people’s nature. A research shows that even a baby unable to speak will smile at the beautiful persons instead of the ones who are ugly. So interesting and funny! But that is the fact.
Before attending a party or dance hall, one important and necessary thing women can not neglect is to make themselves up. For example, before going out to an appointment with your costumers or friends especially male friends, women should chose a suitable dress or suit and with a suitable making up. You can use a lipstick to have charming lips. But remember not to have a heavy making up. Making up lightly is also a sign of respect for others. Nowadays in interviews some employers say that during the job interview, the company is more willing to choose those who make up suitably. They say that girls’ making up is the social etiquette. It does not mean that the employers look down upon the girls who do not make up just because whether a girl makes up reflects her social knowledge and culture of sense.
A good saying is that there are no ugly women in the world, while there are just lazy women. A woman having some disadvantages in appearance can take some measures to make them up. If there is acne or freckle on your face, you can apply some powder to keep them hidden. If the skin of your face is a little dark, you can apply some white powder to have a comfortable appearance. People can not deny that a good appearance is more impressive and charming, attractive than a plain one. People themselves also frequently have such experience that people are more likely to talk with strangers who are beautiful or handsome.